You know you have one (or six). That number that pops up on your caller ID. The one that makes you roll your eyes. Hit decline. Lose your will to live.
(Don’t worry I’m not talking about you).
I’ve had a few of those interactions this week (perhaps I’ve even caused a few of those interactions this week). And it’s usually not even the meat of the dialog that triggers the emotion.
It’s the essence.
The facts can be identical, the news good, the discourse necessary, but some people just leave you feeling heavy. Weary. They constantly accentuate the negative. Focus on the pitfalls. Obsess over worst case scenarios.
(Wow, I just described me during Colts’ season).
The poet, Maya Angelou, shared a powerful piece of advice I’ve been chewing on this week:
“…people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Some people bleed life even in the midst of a difficult interaction. Others can soundtrack the grandest of celebrations with a funeral dirge. How do people feel after a run in with you?
What’s your essence? How do you make people feel?
NOTE: If you find you leave others feeling less than energized, you may need to start with how you feel about yourself. Catch yesterday’s post for an important reminder of how deeply you’re loved and valued. Let that essence overflow into your interaction with others.