Don’t Should On Yourself

Erik Cooper —  December 8, 2011 — 5 Comments

Let me give you an early Christmas gift. It’s a re-gift of sorts. A buddy of mine gave it to me a few months ago, and I must say, it’s possibly one of the nicest things anyone has ever given me (including the autographed Manning Jersey of ’99).

Stop “should-ing” on yourself.

You heard me. I’m serious. Cut it out. It’s disgusting. And it’s ruining your shoes.

What should I say?

How should I act?

What should I pray?

How should I think?

What should I want?

Here’s what I know. Who you really are is hiding underneath that big pile of should. And we’re all tired of your insecure, fear-based, pain-avoiding, false-humility pretense.

Listen, you’re certainly not perfect. In fact, you’re far from it. Your motives are screwed up. Your desires are in constant conflict with your sinful nature. It’s true. And to top it off, I can promise you this, some people won’t like the should-less you. That’s plain scary.

But Jesus longs to collide with who you really are, not who you think you should be. Most of us miss out on true transformation because we spend all our time should-ing our way through life. Try as hard as you like, you’ll never should your way to perfection. And no one, God included, wants to interact with fake you.

Stop pretending. Clean yourself up. Stop should-ing on yourself. It stinks.

The world needs you. God wants you. Not your big pile of shoulds.

5 responses to Don’t Should On Yourself

  1. Good stuff there. I appreciate your pastoral tone and leadership.

    One could also expand the list to include: ought, must, have to, etc.

  2. Good thoughts! Excellent advice! I really should get off here because I want to do some other things.

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