The scent of the Mother’s Day bouquet hasn’t completely disappeared from our kitchen. Just a few days removed from the celebration of all things maternal, I find myself in a coffee shop pondering the plethora of (mixed) comments I’ve received on our approach to Mother’s Day at City Community Church.
This year, the celebration of motherhood intersected week two of our new message series on pain (great planning there guys…nice forethought). But instead of diverting the trajectory, we decided to throw Mother’s Day into the tension and just admit….
…there’s a lot of unspoken pain on Mother’s Day.
Abandonment and abuse.
Death and separation.
The reality is, while many are celebrating with fancy hats, pastel dresses, bouquets of flowers, and family dinners, a lot of people are quietly mourning what they didn’t have, don’t have, or may never have.
A day of celebration. A day of mourning.
So we decided to talk about it.
We utilized a beautifully uncomfortable script penned by an old friend. Julie has struggled with infertility for nearly a decade and a half, and “Mother’s Day Letters” takes a look at the wide variety of emotions people experience on this day.
The audio is linked here (it’s worth a listen):
So much celebration. So much pain. All wrapped up into one day. What do we do with the tension?
We step into it.
I stumbled onto this tweet by Glenn Packiam, a guy I really respect, that sums this up pretty nicely:
“Glorifying pain is brutality; idealizing happiness is sentimentality; weaving grief and joy together is Beauty.” –Glenn Packiam
God is present in the celebration and the mourning. In the joy and in the grief. In death and in resurrection.
Which words best describe your Mother’s Day emotions this year?
Listen to the entire Everybody Hurts…Sometimes: Mother’s Day message by clicking here: message